Anna Li and Jiani Wu suspended

[OnlyBeansOnToast]

And yet we had other parents asking us, basically, what the hell was wrong with us, why didn't we want this for our child, how could we not push our child, now he has no chance to play travel/high school/college/pro. HE'S SEVEN.

My nine-year-old competes at a moderate level in an entirely non-gymnastic sport where I recently heard a parent shouting at their seven-year-old because he was playing around with his friends in between races and - this is a direct quote - "you're not here to have fun, you're here to win". I have told various people inside and outside the sport that if I ever start behaving like that they have permission to punch me.

 

[QuietColours]

My son is two, with a summer birthday. People have been criticizing us since he was less than a year old because we don't plan to red shirt him in kindergarten unless there's a developmental reason--we aren't going to default to it for him to have a better chance at sports.

We also hear "He's so strong and coordinated! It's too bad he's so little!" (20th percentile and likely to stay there). He. Is. Two.

 

[ArnoldRimmer]

I don't know what the fuck is wrong with some people.

 

[OnlyBeansOnToast]

I don't know what the fuck is wrong with some people.

I blame the internet. First, because of the number of people who want their kid to get to some magic number of Instagram followers so they can become either the next Livy or, failing that, land a "brand ambassadorship" for a scrunchie company. Second, because in the 80s and 90s it was that much harder to find a provider of whatever sport you're into and get your kid enrolled and arrange private lessons and so on, took some effort and visits to the library and writing to governing bodies. So a generation of kids were "denied" the chance to chase their dreams but have now been enabled to live vicariously instead. And third because the absolute worst parents in the world now have a platform from which to broadcast their batshit child-wrangling to the universe, thus increasing awareness.

 

[Big_rock_show]

My son is two, with a summer birthday. People have been criticizing us since he was less than a year old because we don't plan to red shirt him in kindergarten unless there's a developmental reason--we aren't going to default to it for him to have a better chance at sports.

We also hear "He's so strong and coordinated! It's too bad he's so little!" (20th percentile and likely to stay there). He. Is. Two.

Same scenario for my summer birthday kid! So baffling!

 

[makam]

My niece is in softball and it is camps, travel team, private lessons to the point where the family has to schedule vacations for the other 3 around the softball season. Kid is 12. I have no idea if she is D1 scholarship level because that is six years away. She could lose interest, blow out her shoulder, or any number of things. And my brother is the coach so God knows if she would actually feel comfortable saying "you know, I think i am done with softball..." and the D1 school she plays for has to be semi-local so they can go to the games. I can't even fathom revolving my life around a sport, much less my kid's sport. And making the rest of the family revolve around it too, but I guess it is in many sports, not just gymnastics that this happens.

At least they aren't pimping my niece on social media...

 

[dweiss324]

Like I knew it was a thing, but I couldn't believe my eyes when last year, during my 6 year old's community soccer game, the volunteer coach started reaming out his own son in front of all of us after a missed goal, and the kid ran off crying. Another parent kept stepping into the field shouting at his 6 year old son to be more aggressive and out front despite the coach putting him on defense! Like, he routinely interrupted the match to shout at his son!

It makes me feel like I'm missing something, like it's so normalized to be absolutely obsessive about your kids' sports, that I can't relate to other parents about it.

 

[cftmoonlight79]

Ok so reading the article, all 3 of there 9/10 coaches were suspended basically for the season. Being from Region 5, we have beem with them at many meets and I don't remember any other coaches. I wonder what the gymnasts will do. Hopefully they find a great gym to train at, what else is nearby?

 

[RedBirdie]

Yuejiu Li is "only" on probation, not suspended, as I understand it, so he can still coach. He's not on the USAG Suspension and restricted list: https://usagym.org/safety/suspended-restricted-persons/

 

[cftmoonlight79]

Oh got it. It's still a lot for one person, although it looked like Perea was their coaching. I wonder if Andi is coaching there

 

[RedBirdie]

It's still a huge issue. They're suspended from all contact: "the individual is not permitted any contact with any USA Gymnastics-sanctioned event, member club, professional member or athlete involved with USA Gymnastics member clubs or events." How does that even work in this case? Jiani is married to Yuejiu! Presumably they live together. Never mind the whole "owns a USAG member club but isn't allowed to have any involvement." And Legacy Elite is not like the MG Elite/Monmouth situation where Monmouth ditched USAG entirely to only to JOGA. If Legacy Elite did that, I have to imagine the business would collapse.